Every time you see them or interact with them, you’re reminded of why you set them apart. Getting over someone you work with can be even more complicated. Not everyone has the luxury of switching jobs. But if you’re one of the many who don’t, there are still some things you can do to help yourself move on.
How to Get Over Someone You See Every Day
So, how do you get over a girl you see every day? Or how do you help yourself get over a guy you’re still in love with (even if your relationship is doomed)? Use the following tips to help you move on from a broken relationship or doomed crush. Keep track of the ones you’d like to focus on first.
1. Acknowledge how you feel and the pain it’s causing you.
You can’t get over feelings you refuse to acknowledge in the first place. If you’re still in love with your ex — or with your crush — it’s essential to admit that to yourself. Be honest about what you’re feeling and why even if you can never admit those feelings to the person you’re (still) in love with.
2. Look for ways to keep out of each other’s sight.
If you can’t get another job, see if you can take another shift, work remotely, or take a position in a different department (one you don’t hate). It’ll be easier than staying where you are and seeing your ex/crush every day. Give each other as much space as possible. You both need it.
3, Look for ways to minimize interaction.
If you can’t eliminate in-person meetings, you can at least agree not to text each other, engage with each other on social media, and not meet up with each other — even in groups — outside the workplace (or wherever you see them regularly). The more you interact with someone you’re still in love with, the harder it is to let go.
4. Don’t join discussions about your ex/crush.
It’s harder to get over someone if you’re always talking about them — whether you’re venting about this person’s role in the implosion of your relationship or rambling on about why you wish it hadn’t ended this way. Don’t accept random invitations to vent about your ex/crush. It doesn’t help.
5. Talk to a therapist.
If you must talk about your ex/crush, find a professional therapist who can help you process what happened and move on. An outside perspective from someone who’s helped many people with similar situations might be just what you need to help you move forward.
6. Give yourself time to grieve.
You’re allowed to acknowledge the toll this relationship (or attraction) has taken on you — and to grieve what you hoped for and what you’ve lost. Give yourself time to work through it all. Don’t be in a hurry to appear “over it” when you’re still hurting on the inside. Respect the grieving process and give yourself the time and space you need.
7. Keep it professional.
Keep interactions at surface level; be polite but not familiar. The moment you start chatting like old friends, you’re likely to start thinking of them that way and wonder why you’re not together (anymore) and whether it might be worth trying (again). If being together isn’t an option, keep your distance.
8. Go on vacation.
Get away from the place where you see your ex/crush and go on a vacation to explore a new place or just get some time to yourself. Do something crazy or tackle something on your bucket list. Make time for something you want to do that your ex/crush wasn’t interested in doing.
9. Spend more time doing your own thing.
Make time to do things you enjoy and to pursue your own interests. Take a class in something that will get you closer to the life you want or to becoming the person you want to be. Prepare meals you enjoy that you couldn’t enjoy when you were with your ex. Put yourself in situations where you might meet someone with whom you have more in common.
10. Take better care of yourself.
Use this time to practice self-care. You don’t have to go crazy with shopping and spa treatments. But take a look at your daily schedule and see if you can carve out more time for sleep. Or take a look at your eating habits and try adding some healthier options. Do something to level up your self-care. It’s easier to move on when you have energy to pursue your own interests.
11. Cultivate mental discipline.
Build a meditation habit to train your mind. The better you are at consciously choosing what to focus on, the easier it will be to choose something other than your failed relationship or the fact you can’t ever be with this person. At least, that’s the theory. Just don’t expect it to be easy.
12. Stop thinking of them as your ex/crush.
When you see them, don’t refer to them, even mentally, as “my ex” or “my crush.” Think of them as your co-worker, your colleague, your classmate, etc. Dispense with any relationship-related labels, and train yourself to see this person as a professional associate.
13. Learn from the experience.
Look at your relationship (or your interactions with your crush) as something that has fulfilled its purpose, and take stock of what you’ve learned from it. Don’t waste your energy on regrets or telling yourself you should have seen the red flags you see now. Just learn what you can from your relationship/attachment and give yourself a break. 93 Compelling Quotes Teaching You How To Let Go 11 Undeniable Signs It’s Time To Let Go Of A Relationship 11 Most Effective Exercises For Letting Go Of Resentment
1. How do I get over my ex I see every day?
If you can’t change the frequency with which you see them, change how you interact with them. As much as possible, avoid texting or emailing them and engaging with them on social media. Create distance between you and work on growing things in that space.
2. How do I get over someone I love deeply?
If you still love them — but you know you can’t be together — you’ll have to be careful to create and maintain an emotional distance (and as much of a physical one as possible) to give yourself the time and space to heal and move on.
3. How do I get over someone I work with?
Limit your interactions and keep them professional and polite but not familiar. If you can’t see them without feeling an almost overwhelming urge to kiss them or destroy someone they’re flirting with, find a way to distract yourself.
4. How long does it take to completely get over someone?
It can take six months to a year to get over a crush — and longer to get over an ex you still love. If you’re still dwelling on what could be or what might have been, it’ll take longer.
5. What if my ex still wants to be friends?
If your ex wants to downgrade your relationship to a platonic friendship and expects you to still be available via text, email, or in-person conversations, getting over them will likely be more challenging. If being “friends” is too much, let them know what you need and ask them to respect your boundaries. Now that you have some ideas on how to get over someone you see every day, what will you do differently this week?
